Being The EVIL Step-Mother..

My "Step-Mother-In-Law" (yea, I know..) told me many times that "being a step-parent will be one if the hardest things that you will have to go through. " Let me be the first to admit, I'd put it in my top 5.
Not that its all bad, its not. But when its bad, it's real bad! I wouldn't change it. I love D and his son T is a good kid. My step son isn't my biggest fan. T doesn't like me very much but, I don't believe that his feelings for me were/are formed on his own. I am also disliked by the majority of the people that he spends most of his time around. It doesn't help when his mother ,K, thinks I'm the devil. K hasn't liked me from the moment that she met me. My understanding is that she hasn't liked anyone that D has been in a relationship with. So no surprise that she hates my guts. 
I have been blamed for everything that has gone wrong in the last 2.5 years. I have been the scape-goat. If you want to know the truth, it hurts, but I wouldn't change it. My shoulders are strong enough to hold the burden of all the blame. I would rather be blamed for things that I have no control over and provide my family (extended and all) with a reason to be such scrooges vs.  them take it out on EVERYONE they know. At least their anger and nasty thoughts are all focused in one spot. Right on me!
It sounds stupid to say that but its true. If everyone can just dislike one person together, then it prevents the nastiness from spreading. 
I have attempted lately to make amends with my step-son. I have asked that if he has heard something about me, or is feeling mad at me, that he comes to me. I don't know that this will work but it has to be worth a try. According to everyone(using that term loosely), I am the reason that T wont try to have a relationship with D. This is the reason I am the EVIL step-mother. Not my intention but apparently the outcome.
D loves T very much. He also loves C (my son) very much. They are both "his". He is all that C knows as a Daddy/Father. The "everyone" who doesn't like me disagrees with this concept. How can he love a child who is genetically his and love one who isn't equally? If you ask D, its easy. He just does. Those "everyones" don't believe that he should. 
See how EVIL I am? I have some how forced D to choose C over T. I have manipulated him to not love T as much. It makes me laugh. Its so ridiculous that I can't take it seriously. I can't hear them say ignorant things like that and not want to say " WTF, Are you serious?"